Either because you’re in a long-term relationship and need to rekindle the flame, or because you’re just seeking to venture outside the set boundaries of the bed. At some point we all seek in sex something beyond the missionary position. However, leaving the comfort of the routine lovemaking with your partner can be intimidating. To help you along, here’s a list of tips to make your sex life the adventure it can be.
Communication Is Key
Yes, I know you’ve heard it a thousand times, but communication is not only the foundation of a stable relationship, but also of a healthy sex life. Create a safe zone for you and your partner, where it is possible to request and ask anything. Let your other half know what are your fantasies, and listen to his or hers. Agree on what to try out and what are your limits, and the answers you get may surprise you. Role-playing? Sex toys? An additional partner in bed? You’ll never know what your partner feels like unless you ask.
Visit A Sex Shop
Communication will take you as far as your imagination goes, but even that has a limit. There is an entire sexual world outside the box of what is regular of which we tend to move away from. Not only because of fear, but also because of ignorance. It’s time to set aside all prejudice, we’re in the 21st century! And the best way to do this is to visit your local sex shop, you don’t even have to go in these days – and order online! Here you can see all the things that you can try out. The technology has come a long way, and nowadays you can find so much more than dildos and blow-up dolls. There are subtler objects for those who approach this world shyly, like stimulants or massage oils, as well as bolder things such as nipple clamps and anal beads. The point is to start small and redefine your limits, what you like, and what you don’t like.
Do Your Research
Although Kamasutra is outdated, it gives us an important piece of information when it comes to spicing things up in bed, and that is the different positions created with the sole purpose of giving and receiving pleasure. There are more positions than just doggy style, you know? While the erogenous zones are the same, trying a different angle can give you pleasure you never thought it was possible. Read sexology books or watch instructional videos on the Internet (not only porn) and try the positions that are best suited to what you’re both looking for.
Make It A Routine To Break The Routine
The idea is not to change everything overnight, but in order to have and long and lasting sex life with your partner, the best thing is to do is to change things gradually. Make a decision to try something new each week, spend special days where you both devote to give pleasure and to fulfill some fantasies, or maybe you can try surprising each other at some point during the day with an unexpected blow job. You will not only relieve the stress of everyday life, but you will also create a bond between yourselves – a bond which is much deeper and more important.